Why GodA while back I read an article by pediatrician and best-selling author, Dr. Alan Greene, entitled, “Why Children Ask Why.”

If you are the parent of a toddler, you’ve endured the seemingly never ending barrage of questions: Why is the sky blue? Why do I have to go to bed? Why are boys and girls different? Why do people wear underwear? Why can’t I lick the dog’s face?

As Dr. Greene points out, “sometimes their insistent questions seem like the drip, drip, drip of ancient water torture.” Little children desperately want to know why.

And so do we.

This last week our tiny Texas town was rocked as five children – ages 5 to 16 – died in a house fire. Only mom, dad and their four year old brother managed to escape the inferno.

As I stood on the street corner with the distraught family that morning – as I walked among the tear-filled community at the candlelight vigil that night – one word echoed over and over again: Why?

Why did those sweet children have to die? Why would a God of love do such a thing? Why? Why? Why?

As a parent, my children are often disappointed when I try to answer their why questions. I don’t always answer them as fully or clearly as they would like. In the end I frequently find myself telling them, “Because I said so.”

They don’t like that answer very much.

Oftentimes, we get frustrated when we hear God’s answer to our why questions. Why did I lose my job? Why did my mom get cancer? Why did those children have to die?

To our why God answers: “It’s for your good” (Romans 8:28) or “I have a plan” (Jeremiah 29:11) or simply “Because I said so” (2 Corinthians 12:9).

God doesn’t tell us exactly why he does what he does. He simply tells us to trust him. But that’s hard to do.

So, if you are struggling with the events of this last week, if you find yourself asking why, if you are not happy with God’s answer, it may help to look at the answer to another why question.

As Jesus hung on the cross suffering excruciating physical pain and the fists of God’s fury for all the sins of all people of all time, he cried out in agony, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” (Matthew 27:46) God the Father had abandoned God the Son.

But why?

God the Father forsook his Son because he loved you and me so much. God died so you and I could live with him forever in heaven. That is God’s plan and purpose for our lives – to get us through this sinful world of suffering to our perfect home of happiness in heaven.

Is that not what God did this last Tuesday for those five children? Why he did it at this time and in that way, I cannot tell you. Right now, I really don’t know what good will come out of this for their family and friends. This side of heaven, we may never fully understand why.

Yet you can be sure that good will come of it. You can be sure that all those who believe in Jesus will be reunited one day to live forever in the happiness of heaven. That is God’s answer. That is God’s plan. That is why he does what he does.



  6 comments for “Why?

  1. Sylvia Martinez
    December 2, 2014 at 2:57 pm

    I ask myself why after 8 yrs on remission from Kidney Cancer for my husband Gilbert Martinez have to come back!! Why? Why?? Especially, when all 3 adult children were out of the house and all in college. My husband and I were finally going to be alone and had many plans of traveling and remodeling our house!! Plus, looking forward to our son becoming an attorney and possibly soon to having grandchildren!! Only to find out on May 29, 2012 his cancer was back and this time told it was TERMINAL!! I felt all the air sucked out of me!! Our lives were turned UPSIDE DOWN!! Why?? Why?? I may never understand the “WHY” today or ever!! But, I have to trust God with all my heart it’s his decision when we all leave this earthly living!! It’s been tough but I am coping and learning how to move forward!! I very thankful that we were together/married for almost 32 yrs and had 3 beautiful children together!! For me now, every day is an opportunity to make a difference in my new chapter of my life!! My heart goes out to the Ortiz/Hernandez Family!! May God comfort and wrap his arms around the parents of these 5 sweet angels!! Only God knows “THE WHY!” In Jesus’s Name….Amen…

    • schroera
      December 3, 2014 at 7:48 am

      Sylvia, thank you for your heartfelt comment. You and your family are in my prayers. Keep trusting God’s plans and purposes. He loves you.

  2. Melissa Chase
    January 20, 2015 at 4:31 pm

    Lovely and powerful message. I also struggle with losing my dad nearly three years ago. I find it difficult to attend church too and often ask “why”.
    This article I will keep handy to reread…
    Thank you

  3. Kim Lahaie Day
    January 21, 2015 at 7:53 am

    My heart aches for those involved in this terrible loss of life. It’s the horror of it which makes it that much worse, simply imagining how those inside the house might have suffered and the survivors guilt felt by those who lived.

    When my pastor and I were planning the funeral service for my 5 year old son who drowned (buried on what would have been his 5th birthday) I requested the verses from Job 38 where God challenges Job’s whys? with His wheres?. “Where were you when I laid the foundations of the earth?”, etc. Our family, friends, neighbors, church family, and others might have been asking the same question of ‘why?’ but God had the answer.

    I think also of the passage in Luke where Jesus sent the disciples to secure the donkey for His triumphal entry into Jerusalem. If someone asked ‘why’ they were taking it, they were to answer, “The Lord hath need of him”. I find comfort in that explanation in dealing with the loss of my child. There is an answer, whether we can comprehend it now, or ever. We will have all the answers in heaven but the questions will no longer matter.

    • schroera
      January 21, 2015 at 9:16 am

      Kim, thank you for sharing your very personal story and for being an example of faith for others.

  4. Kenneth
    November 25, 2015 at 9:39 am

    God does have a plan, In His plan He provided a path for you and I, not to say want have pits and pot holes, but does have purpose. Praise God

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